There are times in our lives when we are facing difficult situations, perhaps it is a personal relationship issue that’s sticky and hard to work through with your significant other. Or, perhaps it’s when you step into a bigger role in your career and take on a challenge. In these moments we need to be able to expand our self-confidence so that it becomes large enough for the task at hand.
However, when that is not the case, insecurity can easily creep in and start draining your energy in a holistic, whole-body way. It usually starts by questioning yourself, questioning if you have the right skills, ruminating on that situation, replaying how things went down in your head, and thinking about what you could or should have said differently. Negative thoughts inside your mind give birth to other negative thoughts, Which in turn start a physiological cascade of events in which your energy starts to drain quite literally as your body manufactures adrenaline and the stress hormone, cortisol, and all of those chemicals running through your body quickly and easily leave you feeling anxious or fatigued and completely incapable of bringing your A game to that particular situation.
If you find yourself in that situation, the first thing that I want to encourage you to do is to check your thinking. Pay more attention to what are the thoughts in your head about that particular situation. What is the story that you are telling yourself about it right now? You are the author of that story which also means you may need to be the editor of the story because the story quite often is part of the problem.
Secondly, please come work with a therapist or coach like myself so that we can find and pluck out the root cause of your insecurity otherwise it is just going t grow back in a different spot on a different day, so what do you say we pluck it out by the root so it stops harassing you?
Food for thought.