divorce-counseling201611We offer divorce counseling to couples that are going through difficult times and considering whether or not to get a divorce. A divorce can be an incredibly difficult time. It is important for you to understand that you do not have to go through it alone. To the contrary, we are here to assist you every step of the way and make it possible for you to get through this divorce without it negatively impacting the rest of your life. While it may seem impossible at the time, you can get through your divorce to go on to have a bright future. However, it does take work. Thus, it is important that you have someone there to help you along the journey. There are several stages of divorce and several stages of divorce counseling. We can assist you through all of them or at any time during the process. The stages include:

#1 “We think it’s over.”

For most couples, the decision to divorce is not easy and it does not happen instantaneously. Typically, there is a period of time where people are wondering about staying together or divorcing. They may also wonder if the relationship is over or if there is still hope. These are normal questions for you to ask and we can help you through this decision-making process. By giving you the ability to think clearly and process through your emotions, you can make decisions feeling more clear-headed; this is better for you in the long run. You can complete this step together or individually.

#2 “What do I want out of this?”

Beginning the divorce is only the first step. You and your spouse will need to decide what you want going forward. What do you want out of this divorce? What do you want your life to be like in the future? You may not know the answer to these questions right away but you are going to have to at least work through some of them. These issues and more will play out in your divorce proceedings regardless of if you want them to or not. For example, who is going to stay in the family home and how will you share custody? These are difficult and emotional issues that can be resolved more effectively through divorce counseling. Remember that while your attorney is there to provide legal assistance, they do not provide emotional assistance. It is often better to work with a counselor and then discuss your goals with your attorney.

#3 “Wow, this hurts.”

Getting a divorce is painful. There is no way around that fact. You will have days where you feel terribly sad and emotional. Divorce counseling cannot prevent this, but it can help you work through those painful emotions so that you do not become trapped or stuck in them. Grief is required to heal, but if you spend too much time grieving, you will be stalled in going forward.

#4 “Today’s a good day.”

Eventually, you will feel better. For many people, it happens gradually and then suddenly you wake up feeling like it is a good day. Life is going to get better and you are alright. We can help to get you there. Divorce counseling can help you regardless of how amicable your divorce is. Call today to find out how.