Couples Therapy

Today I want to talk to you about why every long-term relationship should have a series of business meetings check-in. 

You see, the majority of couples out there under-communicate with one another and could also do a better job at giving each other positive feedback. Couples also struggle at determining when and how they will resolve issues with each other. So having a standing marital business meeting can resolve all three of those issues by giving you a scheduled predictable time to address problems, giving you an opportunity to communicate more, and an opportunity to be intentional about sharing positive feedback with each other. 

So, for any particular relationship, a couple should be checking in every 2 weeks, every 4 weeks, or maybe every 6 weeks based on the current state of your relationship and your lives. Pick a rhythm that works for the two of you and that feels appropriate, put it on both of your calendars, and both o you are responsible for showing up to that meeting. 

Then, you can have a simple four-part structure for your meeting or adapt the structure I’m about to share with you and make it work for you. 

Agenda item number one: Share some acknowledgments and appreciations. What’s one thing your partner has done recently that you really appreciate and want to point out? Similarly, what is one thing about you that they can appreciate? 

Secondly, how are you? What is the context of what is going on in your life that you need to share with your partner? 

Item number 3: How are they? What is the context going on in their life that they need to update you on?

Fourth but most importantly, how are we? How is the relationship? Are we on track or off track? Is there something bothering one partner, something that the couple could be doing better together? Now is a wonderful time to address those things so that they don’t build up and create greater resentment later on.

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