We encourage the couples that we counsel to “check in” and connect with each other briefly at least 3 times a day. Couples in long term relationships know that it can become challenging to maintain a “spark” or fiery chemistry with one another year after year. Even happy and committed couples frequently find that sustaining passion requires effort. Passionate kissing is one of the things that can fizzle over time and can benefit from some renewed vigor. The long and steamy kisses that were part of courtship often give way to more practical and minimized expressions of affection as the years pass. Unintentionally, passionate kissing often gets relegated to moments of foreplay and sexual interludes only and ceases to become part of daily interactions. The two-second “peck” kiss often becomes the most common type of kiss exchanged with a significant other. A peck kiss is a fantastic way to show love to a child or a grandmother. Peck kissing one’s partner, however, won’t do anything to rekindle passion. We encourage the couples that we counsel to “check in” and connect with each other briefly at least 3 times a day. Consider what could happen if you and your partner ban peck kisses from these check-ins and replace peck kisses with something longer and more steamy. If you dare to hold each and every kiss with your partner for a minimum of 5 seconds something interesting is likely to happen. And if you hold every kiss that long, even when you’re in public or in the company of others, you could even become that passionate and connected couple that everyone else envies.