Today I want to give you 3 reasons why I would love for you to stop neglecting your sex life with your partner.
Your physical relationship is usually going to trend in one direction or the other. It is either going to be a source of connection and fun and an outlet for mischievousness and naughtiness or it’s going to add frustration, resentment, and/or discontent to your relationship. You get to pick.
Secondly, if you and your partner happen to be parenting, I think the greatest way that anyone has ever described trying to have a physical relationship amidst the demands of parenthood is that it’s called mating in captivity. If you are doing it well and if you are meeting each other’s needs, I promise you on all of those cold, dark winter nights when you are stuck at home being responsible parents, it will be a lot more fun and more fulfilling than anything that’s on Netflix. If you’re going to be in captivity, why not have a little bit of fun while you’re doing it?
Finally, sometimes our physical relationship gets neglected simply because somebody’s busy or they haven’t been feeling well recently. However, more often than not, if you have been neglecting your sex life it’s because you are either lacking the friendship and connection that you need from your partner in order for it to be robust, or you might be avoiding your own feelings of vulnerability that can often come up in a truly intimate relationship. Both of those things tend to become a source of greater frustration and discontentment as time passes. So, if either of those dynamics might be at play in your relationship, continuing to neglect your sex life is not a recipe for greater happiness and fulfillment.
Food for thought. Is it time to stop neglecting your sex life with your partner?
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